1. Are you relaxed? Can you be humorous in bed? - This is an essential ingredient to great sex. Many people (NOT just women!) are self-conscious about certain body parts while making love. Unfortunately, this can hinder the experience for both parties. Are you willing to keep the lights on? Let him touch you in less-than-toned places? You've got to roll with the punches. In the throws of passion, you will ruin the moment if you cease a position because of the way your stomach "hangs".  

Can you be comfortable enough with your partner to laugh if something doesn't go exactly according to plan? I am specific- ally referring to passing gas in bed. Hello! We all do it; don't be embarrassed. Yes, it might happen at a most inopportune time, but laugh at yourself and move on. If you make up your mind, it can be that easy.  

2. Are you easygoing?/Flexible? - Again, I don't necessarily mean being a pro at combining yoga and sex positions. I'm referring to your overall attitude. You need to be willing to experiment. No, I am not suggesting threesomes and swinging activities for all (unless that's what you want!), but vanilla sex can become, well, vanilla. Mix things up a bit. Sure, trying new things can be daunting, but image the incredible orgasm you might have in a new G-spot stimulating position. Of course, you can't experience it until you actually try it! Bottom line: don't get overly caught up in the specifics. If you roll off the bed in the middle of making love, continue on the floor! You've got to be willing to go with the flow.  

3.. Enthusiasm! - Maybe your ex-boyfriend was better at kissing or your ex-girlfriend drove you crazy with her tongue movements, but you are with your current lover because of enthusiasm. That's right - one of the greatest aphrodisiacs is someone's enthusiasm to be with you. Come on, what could be more of a turn-on than someone ready and excited about making love to you? One friend shared that "Whenever I get home before my boyfriend, I wait in the bedroom for him. When he gets to the bedroom, I say 'Why are you still wear- ing your clothes?' He loves it every time!" Another friend says that her partner LOVES it when she makes eye contact while performing oral sex. It's all about the enthusiasm, folks. Wouldn't you agree?